How To Love Your Engagement in 4 Easy Steps
I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times - being engaged can quickly go from one of the most exciting times in your life to complete suckville in about 2.5 seconds. From becoming apparently independently wealthy the sec that ring goes on your finger to Aunt Karen and all of her ehem - "advice", everyone pestering you for a date, and things like a global pandemic and uncontrollable weather patterns to keep you up at night - it's easy to lose that newly engaged glow. Here are some simple tips for keeping that joyful feeling & loving your engagement.
Set boundaries around wedding talk. My husband and I learned quickly after having kids that we HAVE to put some boundaries around when we talk about the kids. Otherwise, they ended up being all we talked about. Same with your wedding. Pick a day of the week that you set as an appointment on your calendar to sit down and hash out all things wedding. That 's not to say that convos won't come up in between those meetings, but having that boundary in place should keep most of it contained.
Take breaks. Our planning process is broken up into phases and in between each phase, we take a 30-day break so our couples can date. HELLO. But really, you cannot only plan your wedding for the next 12 months. That is a sure-fire way to have an anticlimactic wedding day.
Check the attitude. Want to hate your engagement and your life for years to follow? Treat everyone around you like shit while you're engaged. Or don't & have a splendid engagement.
Remember why you're getting married. At the end of the day, as much as my livelihood depends on you believing otherwise, the party basically doesn't matter. I mean, sure it's fun & we all love a good reason to celebrate, but as so many 2020 couples are learning, love can't be canceled and it's truly the reason we're all here.
BONUS TIP: If you want to love your engagement, have a simple planning framework to work in. You can get our guide to planning your wedding in 3 easy phases HERE.